"True friendship isn't about being there when it's convenient. It's about being there when it's not." - Unknown
I read this quote last week and it resonated with me. I have had a number of what I call 'convenience friends'. Those people who want to be friends when it's convenient for them, but not when it isn't. The friends who are only there when you make all the effort, and expect you to, almost as if they are doing you a favour by turning up and being there.
They say is it when you are at your worst, you realise who your true friends are. I believe it is during your best and worst times that you realise who your true friends are. It is those people who are there through the good, bad, ugly and the absolutely fantastic, who I count as my true friends. Not those who make the sad or happy occasion/s about them and then find weak excuses not to fully participate in said occasion/s rather than being upfront and honest about why they can't be there. I appreciate honesty. I appreciate it far more than excuses. The truth may hurt, but it hurts more when I know the excuse is just that - an excuse as opposed to a valid reason.
These same friends then manage to find the time and energy to do things with whom I believe to be their real friends. Even when things are often unplanned. And that's how I know. I know who I can rely on to be there, no matter what. To share in my happiness, sadness and everything in between, as friends should, as I would. But then perhaps people are different and I shouldn't expect so much. Just because I would give so much, I shouldn't expect everyone else to too. Because isn't it our differences as people that make us so unique?
So I take a deep breath and a step back. I know who my true friends are. And in the end, that's all that matters.
I read this quote last week and it resonated with me. I have had a number of what I call 'convenience friends'. Those people who want to be friends when it's convenient for them, but not when it isn't. The friends who are only there when you make all the effort, and expect you to, almost as if they are doing you a favour by turning up and being there.
They say is it when you are at your worst, you realise who your true friends are. I believe it is during your best and worst times that you realise who your true friends are. It is those people who are there through the good, bad, ugly and the absolutely fantastic, who I count as my true friends. Not those who make the sad or happy occasion/s about them and then find weak excuses not to fully participate in said occasion/s rather than being upfront and honest about why they can't be there. I appreciate honesty. I appreciate it far more than excuses. The truth may hurt, but it hurts more when I know the excuse is just that - an excuse as opposed to a valid reason.
These same friends then manage to find the time and energy to do things with whom I believe to be their real friends. Even when things are often unplanned. And that's how I know. I know who I can rely on to be there, no matter what. To share in my happiness, sadness and everything in between, as friends should, as I would. But then perhaps people are different and I shouldn't expect so much. Just because I would give so much, I shouldn't expect everyone else to too. Because isn't it our differences as people that make us so unique?
So I take a deep breath and a step back. I know who my true friends are. And in the end, that's all that matters.
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