This seems to exist a lot. Perhaps I missed it when I was growing up or was too protected to notice it, which is maybe why it surprises me so much now.
I don't understand double standards. How can there be one rule for one person and another rule for someone else in the same environment? Take managers for example. Most managers I've come across have been pretty easygoing and happy as long as you get your work done for the day/week/month. But there have been some who think it's ok to assert their authority perhaps a bit too much. Think that they're better than everyone else, that only they know what's going on. Which I think stems from an insecurity of wanting to always be in control and afraid that if they let go even a little bit, they'll slip up. So they use this as an excuse to come down like a ton of bricks for minute things, things that don't even matter in the grand scheme of things, because it gives them a feeling of power, of control over the other person. But should they make the same 'mistake' (I don't even know if some of these things can be called that, given how irrelevant they are to the job) everything is glossed over, and an "oh it happens" attitude is taken. The term "Pot, Kettle, Black" comes to mind!
Another example is in relationships. Why is it okay for one person to be busy, have lots going on and not keep in touch with the other, but when the other has the same thing, the first doesn't like it and gives the other a hard time? Or one person is 'allowed' to do whatever they like, but the other, for whatever reason set by the first person, cannot do the things they enjoy?
The more I look around me, I seem to encounter double standards everywhere! And I don't remember this while I was growing up - not to this extent anyway. It seems to me that more and more people are willing to do anything for a power high, to feel big and powerful; and if that means making someone else feel small, screwing someone over, or creating rules that frankly, don't need to exist but only do to further enhance this feeling of power and respect that so many people seem to want these days (note, I said 'want' not 'deserve'), then they'll more than happily do it. Sad insecurities? Methinks so...
Dude, get used to it, everyone wants to "Lord it over" in some form or way in this world; just to pamper their own Pride and Ego. Some people don't realise that "Time" is such a short commodity in life, and in this life we need to learn to stop pampering our Pride and Ego.
ReplyDeleteTo be honest, its best to just work on ourselves directly and build that armour around us to ignore the 'BS' others try to display as "Authority" or "Control".
Someone told me just a few weeks ago that once we begin to respect and love ourselves, then everything will feel so much better internally and externally you will attract the genuine love and respect from others as a glowing person, as you would have dealt with your own insecurities/anarthas. All the forceful, deceitful and power struggles to enhance the feeling of ones power and respect will get a person nowhere. That person will always remain hollow....just make sure we don't become hollow people....remember you are a "Spirit Soul", something that is unbreakable :)
ReplyDeleteShruti3 September 2012 16:31
All very true Spirit Soul; as I always say though - there's no excuse for bad manners. I could work on myself until the cows come home, but if the other person isn't willing to change the way they do things (granted this is not in my control and so there isn't acutally anything I can do about it) they will always end up hurting people. What annoys me is when they know they're doing it and take some sort of sick pride in knowing that they do.