What's better? Better to have loved and lost, than never have loved at all? Or do some prefer a life of solitude, where you don't have to go through that intense pain, all that hurt that comes with being in some relationships?
How do you deal with the pain of having loved and lost? Knowing you can never be with that person again, share your life and its loves with them? Is it better to not have gone through that love and loss...?
How do you deal with the pain of having loved and lost? Knowing you can never be with that person again, share your life and its loves with them? Is it better to not have gone through that love and loss...?
the cure for burning out fire is water but what is the cure the burning of love inside someone for someone else? when you work that one out let us all know but as far as I know the cure for love is more love its always better to have loved than to have not loved at all- and if love is true then there is no such thing as loss when u fall in love you dont have conditions one doesnt sign a contract of the benefits one will recieve true love is unconditional you gain so much even by losing - jeet mein haar hai haar mein jeet hai! suna to hoga! i think u need to change the way u look at things you will be more happy! best of luck!
ReplyDeleteThank you for your comment! It's much appreciated. I do have to say here, with all due respect, that it does make it slightly easier to say things like "you just need to change the way you look at things" when you're not in the situation yourself. When you're in the thick of it all, it becomes difficult to be objective and think "Ok maybe I need to change the way I look at this." I'm not saying it's impossible, it just takes years to master the art of detaching yourself from a situation you're in and look at it differently!
ReplyDeleteAs for the love and loss thing...I was talking about it in the sense of people breaking up or from death. Wheather that's a marriage or any other type of relationship. The loss is the physical and emotion absence of that person, when they're no longer there. Whether they die or you break up, it's extremely painful and I guess I was trying to ask people's opinion on what they think is 'better' for them...
Whilst browsing I came across your blog, and I hope you don’t mind me posting a comment.
ReplyDeleteI just want to first start by saying your writing is quite magnificent, very skilled.
If this really is a way for you to self express, you should never stop.
Your questions and wonderings are so very valid, and honest. And, very appreciated.
May be I can help you with one of them.
If I can share my story. I’ve been in love many times, and loss has come each and every time also.
There have been many reasons; a difference of religion, being at different stages in life...
The heartbreak at the end of a relationship, one in which you have gave everything you are and everything you have into, is torturous. You can feel your heart literally breaking. Time seems to slow. Nothing seems to matter or count for anything. Everything is incomprehensible.
Loneliness so suddenly falls upon you, with the realisation, you will never hear their sweet voice again, nor will you ever see their so familiar face again.
As I say this, I bet you ask, would I rather have not loved any of these women of my past, to protect my fickle heart?
... NEVER!
I am so thankful and grateful, for all of my past relationships. With each relationship I have gained a greater understanding; of me, of what I desire from a partner, and what it is I want from life.
Also, this year gone by, I have had to attend a number of family funerals. I’ve seen children lose their father, young children lose their mother, a husband after 60 years of marriage become a widower.
Something I finally understood was; loss is inevitable, death is inevitable.
But, should it stop us from taking our journeys in life?
Stop us from wholly loving our family and friends out of fear one day we may lose them?
Stop us from experiencing something so magical that life has to offer?
Life goes on. It must!
In response to whether we should love at all, because often with love comes loss, for me, my retort is, unequivocally YES.